![Comic panel of a grandmother drawing on a pad for a child, who is wearing a magician's hat and sitting on her lap.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/09e28d5/2147483647/strip/true/crop/1800x1200+0+0/resize/2000x1333!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F94%2F99%2F6b3035b941fc9416ce50e57006b0%2Fla-oe-mahdavian-memory-header.jpg)
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![My earliest memory of my Iranian grandmother is of her hands. They were soft, the product of years of diligent moisturizing](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/5b7866e/2147483647/strip/true/crop/2715x2432+0+0/resize/2000x1792!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fa0%2F45%2F6898e421438d87980cef67c0649c%2Fla-oe-mahdavian-memory-1.jpg)
![When I saw her for the last time, I meant to draw her hands. "It's me, Navied." [Image of hands hugging someone's back]](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/156b0f3/2147483647/strip/true/crop/2728x2436+0+0/resize/2000x1786!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F58%2Fc8%2F825a23d4436bae633677d7a4ee83%2Fla-oe-mahdavian-memory-2.jpg)
![She would draw for me as a child. "It's called a bolbol*." *Nightingale [Image: a grandmother drawing for a child on her lap]](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/fc22a76/2147483647/strip/true/crop/2699x2509+0+0/resize/2000x1859!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F16%2F3a%2F3b30ab4a4997b861f9e0eb67263e%2Fla-oe-mahdavian-memory-3.jpg)
![And she always encouraged my sleight of hand. [Image: A man pulls a quarter from behind the ear of a woman in a hospital bed]](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/ebeb283/2147483647/strip/true/crop/2718x2436+0+0/resize/2000x1792!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F74%2F52%2Ff846fe3b4908b36d7a893091565c%2Fla-oe-mahdavian-memory-4.jpg)
![My Persian never progressed beyond that of a 6-year-old, but we had art and illusions. [Image: a magic trick between hands]](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/d82369c/2147483647/strip/true/crop/2702x2478+0+0/resize/2000x1834!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F30%2Fbf%2F76c8f9f04edaa5b93453a4221aa4%2Fla-oe-mahdavian-memory-5.jpg)
![Words were never that important anyway. "Do that again, Navied." [Image: grandmother in a hospital bed with grandson by side]](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/a320bf2/2147483647/strip/true/crop/2719x2518+0+0/resize/2000x1852!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2Ff0%2F66%2F02755cc14272b402c454eb4e6990%2Fla-oe-mahdavian-memory-6.jpg)
Navied Mahdavian is a cartoonist and writer. He is a contributor to the New Yorker and author of the graphic memoir “This Country: Searching for Home in (Very) Rural America.”
When we moved out into the country, we took a shotgun with us and let visitors shoot it for the real “Idaho experience.” Then came a sickening boom in the night.
The sofreh cloth meant many things in my Iranian American culture: food, memory and often a death in the family. My daughter and I are keeping it special.
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